Emotional Anchors!

Recently I read a blog of a friend and she had mentioned something about emotional anchors in our lives.

That’s a beautiful concept – Emotional Anchors!

I am not sure if we have felt the need for emotional anchors to be there in our lives. I think they just happen. An emotional anchor emerges from nowhere and takes you through the ups and downs and helps you through the situation selflessly. They come in any form. Your Best friend, Spouse, Sibling, Parent, A Colleague, Boss, Teacher - depending on your situation they transform to become your confidante, providing great support, guidance etc. If not anyone else, sometimes your own alter ago can be your EA. Some even rely on God to awaken their inner self to take them through the different paths. Some rely on concepts of soul mates. Or as my cousin says, somebody to nourish his soul.

All of these lead to that one person whom I call – The Emotional Anchor! As the words imply,  this person is the best person to understand your emotions in that situation and be the "anchor" to help you grounded without drifting away due to external forces or internal turmoil.

From time to time a person can have different emotional anchors depending on circumstances, location and a myriad of other variables and factors.

The role the emotional anchor plays is very crucial and interesting depending on the situation. A person need not be offered an advice or a solution. Many a time, he just needs to be heard. The EA in such cases becomes a sounding board and the person finds his way out automatically. The EA is just able offer such invaluable support, and often effortlessly.

Without realizing, we all become emotional anchors to someone else automatically and at the same time, we also seek such support for ourselves too. While people can be emotional anchors mutually, it need not be a vice versa phenomenon. Even between spouses! I know it is a tricky subject. Still, spouses need not be mutual emotional anchors to each other. In fact in many situations, it works better otherwise, for maintaining harmony and stability. Having said that, there would be innumerable situations wherein a spouse plays crucial and critical roles.

The beauty of an emotional anchor is the selfless support being provided, without being judgemental, without malice and above all without letting insecurities, expectations and possessiveness to creep in.

I have been fortunate to have different emotional anchors in my life who have helped me face different challenges and to be successful. Some official, some business related, larger life issues or even a skill issue. I keep getting new emotional anchors who tend feed to the different emotional – tangible and the intangible needs. Some may help with a subtle push to nurture a hobby while someone may help in going after a big dream. Some may help in unearthing a "new" skill, while some one else may help in removing an old mental block.

And, there are some people who are there for me for anything and everything, whatever the weather. They have been through my emotional upheavals. Having travelled a long journey together, they are now no longer just my emotional anchors, but anchors at large. They are beyond my emotions.

Just wanted tell those noble souls – Thank you for being there!